Navigating a relationship where one partner frequently works away from home presents unique challenges that can impact both individuals' mental health and well-being.
While specific statistics on the number of UK workers who spend extended periods away from home are limited, certain professions—such as the military, offshore oil and gas industries, and long-haul transportation—commonly require such arrangements. Additionally, the rise of remote and hybrid working models has altered traditional work patterns, with 41% of UK workers engaging in remote work at least part of the week as of October 2024.
Many people experience their partner traveling for work, sometimes for a week or even longer, and that in itself comes with challenges. With work-related travel becoming more common and businesses operating on a global scale, this reality likely affects more couples than we realize.
Modern life doesn’t always follow the traditional 9-to-5 routine, where both partners are home for dinner each night. Shift work, long hours, and differing schedules can mean that some couples barely see each other—passing like ships in the night.
When one partner needs to work away for extended periods, it's important to remember that both individuals will face challenges. Their experience will be different but they will still face difficulties.
Challenges Faced by Couples:
1. Emotional Strain: Extended separations can lead to feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and sadness for both partners. The partner at home may feel isolated, while the one away might experience guilt or helplessness for not being present.
2. Communication Difficulties: Time zone differences, demanding work schedules, and limited connectivity can hinder regular communication, potentially leading to misunderstandings and a sense of disconnect.
3. Trust and Security: Physical distance may amplify insecurities, causing concerns about fidelity and commitment, which can strain the relationship.
4. Domestic Responsibilities: The partner at home often shoulders more household duties, leading to increased stress and potential resentment.
5. Mental Health Impacts: Both partners may experience mental health challenges due to the prolonged absence, including stress, anxiety, and depression.
Strategies for Coping:
1. Establish Clear Communication: Set regular times for calls or video chats to maintain a sense of connection. Utilizing various communication methods, such as emails or letters, can also provide meaningful interactions.
2. Set Mutual Goals: Discuss and align on future plans to ensure both partners feel they are working towards common objectives, fostering a sense of unity despite the distance.
3. Seek Support: Engage in social activities, support groups, or counseling services to alleviate feelings of isolation and share experiences with others in similar situations.
4. Prioritize Quality Time: When together, focus on meaningful interactions to strengthen the bond. Planning special activities or simply enjoying each other's company can reinforce the relationship.
5. Practice Self-Care: Both partners should engage in activities that promote their well-being, helping to manage stress and maintain mental health.
Navigating periods of separation requires effort, understanding, and adaptability from both partners. By implementing effective coping strategies, couples can maintain a strong and fulfilling relationship despite the challenges posed by distance.
The reality is that many more couples may find themselves having to navigate periods of separation for work. To be able to navigate it, keep the communication open, share how each of you is feeling and when you need more support. Remember you are in it together.
Does any of this resonate with you? If you feel you are struggling with a similar situation and would like to have a space to talk and explore it please do get in touch.