How to Find a Good Therapist: A Friendly Guide

Finding a therapist can feel a bit daunting. You might be wondering: How do I know if they’re right for me? I get it, it’s a big step. The good news is, with a few simple steps, you can find someone who really fits you and supports your journey.

1. Think About What You Need

Before you start looking, take a moment to reflect

• Why you want therapy: Are you dealing with anxiety, depression, grief, relationship challenges, or just looking for personal growth?
• Type of therapy: I work using person-centred therapy, which focuses on creating a warm, understanding space where you feel heard and supported.
• Format: Do you prefer meeting in person, online, or over the phone?
• Budget & schedule: Therapy can be an investment in yourself. Some therapists offer flexible rates or packages.

Knowing these things will help you narrow down your options and find a therapist who suits you.

2. Do a Little Research

Start with trusted sources:

• Professional directories: BACP or UKCP for registered and accredited therapists. This ensures the therapist you choose has completed good counselling training with a reputable provider. They will have completed their own personal therapy, and also fulfilled a student placement working directly with clients. They will be having ongoing supervision and will be keeping up to date with their learning.

3. Check Credentials and Experience

A good therapist will have:

• Accredited training and registration with a professional body.
• Ongoing supervision or professional development, which helps ensure they provide safe and effective support.

4. Practical Considerations Matter

Think about:

• Location or accessibility (if in-person)
• Availability and session length
• Cost & cancellation policies

Even practical things like a friendly waiting room or easy parking can make a difference to how comfortable you feel.

5. Trust Your Gut

The relationship you have with your therapist is the most important factor in whether therapy works. You should feel:

• Heard and understood
• Respected and safe
• Comfortable to open up at your own pace

It’s normal to try a few therapists before finding the right fit. Your first session is as much about you checking if it feels right as it is about them working with you.

6. Ask Questions Early

Some helpful questions to ask during an initial chat:

• How do you work with clients using person-centred therapy?
• Do you have experience with my type of issue?
• How do you measure progress?
• How flexible are you with session times?

7. Watch for Red Flags

• Promises of “quick fixes”
• Pressure to share before you’re ready
• Lack of transparency about fees or session structure
• Unprofessional behaviour or boundary issues

If anything feels off, it’s okay to step back and try someone else.

8. Consider Extra Support

Therapy can be complemented by:

• Peer or support groups (especially for grief or niche issues like pet bereavement)
• Trusted friends or family
• Reliable self-help resources online

Key Takeaway
Finding the right therapist is about matching your needs, comfort, and preferences with a professional who has the skills and approach that suit you. Using person-centred therapy, I focus on creating a safe, non-judgemental space where you feel truly heard. Take your time, ask questions, and trust your instincts. You deserve support that feels right for you.