Counselling for adults in Chester, Cheshire. Online nationwide
Supporting individuals with the loss of their pet
I have always loved and cared deeply for animals, all of them, domestic and those in the wild. I have always had dogs and cats around me and in my youth my weekends were spent helping on small holdings, riding and caring for horses. My animals mean the world to me, giving me love, companionship, and comfort, especially during the most challenging moments of my life. Their presence in my home brings me peace, but losing them has been one of the most painful experiences I’ve ever faced. I know the heartbreak of having to make difficult decisions and say goodbye to a beloved pet.
Often I have felt my grief wasn’t understood by others, and I was left feeling isolated and alone in my sadness. This is why I’m so passionate about providing support to those going through the loss of an animal. I don’t want anyone to feel alone in their grief.
For my master’s research, I chose to focus on pet bereavement and how counselling can help people through this deep loss. I also wanted to raise awareness among professionals about the importance of offering support for pet bereavement. I am fully committed to offering compassionate care and continually developing my skills to provide the best support possible for those grieving their animal companions.
We should never underestimate the powerful bond we share with animals, who love us unconditionally and ask for so little in return. Losing this source of comfort and joy can feel incomprehensible, and I am here to help you through this difficult journey.
How do I support clients?
"My pet died and I can't stop crying'
I am going to be right by your side as you process the loss of your pet. Offering you a supportive, non-judgemental, and empathetic space. I will hear you and listen to your experience, share thoughts and feelings with you. I want you to feel heard and that your grief is normal and is validated.
As with any bereavement it is important for you to have someone to talk to who can hear exactly how you are feeling and what the loss of your animal has meant to you.
In addition, to my counselling approach, we can also take some time to answer any specific questions you may have surrounding the loss of your animal should this be something you need.
Sometimes when dealing with the loss of your pet, other feelings associated from other events or memories may arise unexpectedly. As a qualified counsellor you can feel safe to explore and reflect on these should you choose to.
I am also able to offer you a trauma-informed approach, which helps to make sense of what you’re experiencing. Often, the reactions you’re feeling are completely normal responses to difficult or extraordinary situations. Understanding this can be a powerful step towards feeling more in control and at ease with yourself. Experiencing trauma can lead to emotional and physical shock or heightened stress. These responses are entirely natural and are your body and mind's way of protecting you. Trauma can deeply affect how you think, feel, and act.
“Our animal friends teach us more than we could have expected, and love us more than we could have hoped. That’s why we miss them more than we could have imagined.” – Unknown
Why is offering support for pet bereavement important?
Through my research and discussions with pet owners, it's evident that people experience profound grief over the loss of their animals, often for longer periods than anticipated. Many feel isolated in their grief, hesitant to share it for fear of judgement or because they lack avenues for support.
How long does grief last? Society tends to downplay this grief, expecting it to diminish quickly, yet research indicates that mourning for our animal companions can persist for months or even years. When we love, we will grieve and there is no rules on how long that should or will be.
For my masters dissertation, I explored the importance of integrating pet loss into counselling services. I delved into the human-animal bond, our emotional attachment to pets, and the benefits they bring to our lives. I also examined the impact of grief, its duration, and the concept of disenfranchised grief—feeling marginalized in our mourning process. Additionally, I investigated methods for maintaining bonds, circumstances surrounding pet loss, and the role of counselling in providing grief support. (Photo credit: Morar)
I have recently done a live with Colleen Kersey, looking at this question
'Why does losing a pet hurt so much' - you can watch the replay by clicking here.
Learn more about Colleen and what she does here.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do you have experience of your own pet loss?
Yes, I have experienced the deep grief of losing a beloved pet, and it shapes how I support others during their loss. I understand the unique bond between humans and their pets and am committed to helping you navigate your grief with empathy and care. My personal experiences and love for animals allow me to offer genuine understanding and provide a safe space for you to express your emotions and heal.
I am losing my animal and I am finding it really difficult, can you help?
Anticipatory grief can be incredibly difficult as you’re constantly watching and waiting. I’ve been through it myself and understand how challenging it can be. You may feel anxious, stressed, or experience emotions like sadness, anger, despair, or panic. Support during this time can provide a safe space to share your feelings and help you find ways to cope.
How soon after the loss can I contact you for counselling?
You can reach out whenever you feel ready. In the early days and weeks after a loss, it’s common to feel intense emotions, shock, or denial. Many people find it helpful to wait a couple of weeks before seeking support, as they may feel more prepared to share their feelings then.
How do you support clients who are grieving over the loss of a pet?
Our sessions focus entirely on you and your experience. I provide a safe space to explore emotions like guilt over euthanasia, feelings of responsibility, or difficulty forgiving yourself. We can also address the trauma of loss, the emptiness in your home, or the disruption of your routine. Unexpected feelings may arise, and I’m fully qualified to support you through those as well.
As family members, can we all join a session together?
Losing a cherished pet affects each family member differently, as everyone has their own unique bond. Our individual sessions allow you to focus on your personal experience, providing a safe, supportive space tailored to your needs.
I have specific questions relating to losing my pet, can you answer them?
You may have specific questions about your pet's loss, like: Where can I bury them? How do I know when it’s time to say goodbye? How will the loss affect my other pets? How do I tell my children? When will I get the ashes back, and what should I expect? Alongside counselling, I can help address any concerns or questions you have.
